Boundaries: respect, trust - 16/10/2025

I had a good day.

Helping and mentoring others makes me feel good, I get a deep, grounded satisfaction from it: sharing knowledge and helping others grow.

I interviewed 2 candidates for a junior position, one who knew everything with AI and one who knew nothing but who reasoned. Guess who is getting the position.

I have a colleague at work, who questions my fundamentals of knowledge about work, I have not yet responded and do not intend to: this is a boundary cross, an ego-trip, a lack of self-confidence as evident by work. This colleague has some great knowledge and contextual insight, it's unfortunate to be distributed only on demand, or with a bit of 'condescending instruction' as ChatGPT put it.

So, this is really what I want to get off my chest. My girlfriend, my life-partner as she likes to remind me seems to not be able to differentiate between my boundaries and her ex's involvement in her life. She knows due to the many occurrence this gentleman has been brought up, it's been made an issue for me. Most recently, she cross a boundary: she is aware of how I feel about her being in communication with old suitors, yet she - not for the first time - told me as a matter of fact about work she'll be doing for him. He knows I don't want her in contact, yet he reached out and she agreed. We discussed this, I don't control her but this is a boundary crossed for me due to lack of respect and trust erosion. She insists it's just "this one time", it won't be this one time and why the hell is she coming up for him here...

I don't trust her anymore, she is a roommate for me, she's made herself a roommate. I always had this suspicion in the back of my mind, I'm just another notch on her belt or a rebound, that lasted longer than expected. I once about a saying well known in the personal services industry - whether there is any truth to it is another matter - where by the sex worker has a limited amount of fucks before she is done. We have been roommates for more than a year, been completely intimate with passion maybe last year April. Ever since, its just been 'getting off'. Our relationship is done, and I need to move on.

That being said, I have alot of growing to do, I have alot to figure out and I have alot of healing to do, physically, mentally and emotionally. I also need to go see a dick doctor... fuck!